A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy.
By Drs Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson.
s romance your goal? Is romance the purpose of your relationship? Are you looking for the one true love, the one and only person who will fit your needs exactly?
Bader and Pearson show that when we pursue a romantic ideal, we miss the real person we are married to or in a relationship with. Hence the title “the mythical mate”. We pursue an ideal that does not exist.