Welcome to Relationship Insights by Relationship Doctor, Kaye Gersch PhD

Are you frustrated by being unable to communicate effectively with your partner? Do you ever feel properly heard? Are you unable to “get through” to your partner?

Do you fight, but the fights don’t lead to any resolution or solution? Instead, do your fights lead to an accumulation of bad feelings? Do the bad feelings erode the joy, hope and vitality you had at the beginning of your relationship?

Are you at the beginning of your relationship, and want to avoid pitfalls, and instead build a strong, sustainable relationship that will weather the storms of life?

Do you want to learn more about love, and how to grow love?

You need Relationship Insights!

I initially wrote these Insights for clients to apply, between couple’s therapy sessions, as homework.  Then other people wanted access to them. As a result I have created this website for you. The focus is how to repair, grow and sustain your relationship.

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Keeping sex alive

Finally we get right to the heart of the sexual aspect of your relationship. How you keep sex alive will depend on your own individuality, as well as the individuality of your partner. And of course, how you combine that individuality.
The next few Insights will focus on sexuality, so we will cover the subject fairly thoroughly. In this Insight you will be invited into self-inquiry. Self-knowledge is crucial for every aspect of relationship, and especially your sexuality.

How do you build trust as a couple?

In another Insight, “How many serious ruptures” I summarised the basis for building trust as a couple.  

Firstly, you consistently turn towards opportunities to connect with your partner.

Secondly, you acknowledge and talk about any feelings of unhappiness with your partner.

And thirdly, you consistently see your partner in a favourable light.  That is, you cultivate a benevolent perspective, where you interpret your partner kindly.

Here in this Insight I give much more detail about how trust is gradually and consistently built over time. (Trust can also be eroded over time, but that is not the perspective I am taking here.)


“By dint of experience, Kaye Gersch understands the ups and downs of relationships. Relationship Insights marries her many years of wisdom from lived experience with the depth of Jungian psychology. The insights are both practical and reassuring; they normalise how it really is in intimate relationships, while at the same time suggesting ways to navigate the various dilemmas we confront. In bite-sized pieces, this nourishment is easy to digest and supports the deep intimacy that comes when we’re prepared to be in relationship for the long haul.”

Sharon Moloney, PhD

Women’s health practitioner, hypnotherapist and author of “Activate Your Female Power”.

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