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She wants sex but you don’t? Desire discrepancy in relationships.


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f she wants sex but you don’t we are talking about desire discrepancy in your relationship. You will be upset. And inevitably your partner will be upset. This is normal!

It is also a complex issue so let’s begin with some of the myths and fantasies around sexual desire in a relationship.

Read this Relationship Insight. See what you think.

A writer’s bio


A t every turn, relationships are the core of your life – and of mine. It took the breakdown of my long-term relationship for me to go into the depths of what makes relationships work – or not. I became more courageous about tackling the hard stuff, both in myself and in my clients.

I have been hatching these Relationship Insights all my life. I just didn’t know it.

Relationship Insights

February 9, 2020
She wants sex and you don't? Desire discrepancy in relationships.

She wants sex but you don’t? Desire discrepancy in relationships.

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